We don’t have good information about detransition, retransition and regret. People are pointing to old studies. Once again this population is a small group within a small group so no good data and there is likely a reluctance on the part of some people to really tackle the issue. Sometimes the best place to find info really is the internet and not your friendly local gender therapist or primary care doc.
If I wait until this is where I want it to be I will never post it. So I will update this post. Maybe turn it into a page.
Our society is pretty reactive. For some, if medical transition is wrong for some people it must be wrong for everyone and if transition is right for some people it’s the only path we should advance for everyone with dysphoria. I’m a bigger fan of matching people up with the best intervention, doing genuine informed consent which would have a lot of I don’t knows included in it and then taking good care of them across their life span.
For the sake of clarity, since talking about regret can be misperceived as being anti-trans, I believe that hormonal and surgical transition is the best course for some people. I also believe I do not have a crystal ball that can tell exactly who will be happy or unhappy. For some people, while medical intervention will not make the dysphoria disappear it may improve the quality of their lives. I’m all for improving the quality of people’s lives and stopping the way in which we discard people and warehouse them in slums. I’m all for expanding definitions of gender expression for all ages of people. I get off topic at times…
Not all people who detransition regret transitioning by the way. For some people it was a developmental step or the only way to answer a question and discover that it wasn’t the best answer.
There are increasing numbers of blogs about regret and detransition. Some of them are enraging because they cite inaccurate statistics or take quotes from studies out of context or basically just make things up. Many point to an article in the English paper the Guardian as proof of the failures of transition. There is no published study to go with that article so no peer review no way to really look at the data. One of these days I will take that article apart i just need more time in the day. Anyhow sites that quote it are red flags if you are looking for factual information.
I wanted to point out a few sites that are valuable and even if I disagree with what is in them, there is a lot of useful information and people willing to share experiences. It is so hard to get useful information when a person is detransitioning or experiencing regret. We can’t disagree with people’s experiences even though as a society we would like to tell people their experience is wrong.
I wanted to talk about blogs that I follow when I can. I have a lot of respect for the people who are willing to publicly share their experiences. They often are criticized and attacked for doing so. I think gender therapists should be reading about the experiences of people for whom transitioning did not work or did not address the issues they thought it would when they transitioned.
These blogs can be upsetting, painful, in that they are real people who have had real experiences and have stopped transitioning or transitioned back. There are different ways that people frame this and some people feel they made a mistake and other people do not. Some of them feel they have been harmed by the medical and mental health establishment. I’d say they have. None of these folks is shirking their own individual responsibility, but some of them are raising genuine criticisms of therapists and medical providers and we need to listen to them. I think of regret in a variety of ways and one of them is that it is a complication of transitioning. Medical intervention is not the correct course for everyone with dysphoria. Many things should be discussed and considered to relieve dysphoria.
Thoughts about living as different genders, taking t and stopping, how gender seems to function in this society and other related ideas that churn around in my brains.
I genuinely appreciate crashchaoscats blog although it’s rarely updated. She is very open with her experience.
This site is “pro people” and all about finding your correct path in life even if it involves a few wrong turns along the way. It also aims to further the understanding of transgender issues by discussing topics that fall out of the mainstream understanding of non-binary gender identity expressions and identity.
A video Transsexual Detransition and Retransition Screencast
I’m a 23 year old woman with sex dysphoria, finding other ways to deal with this besides transition. I was diagnosed with GID, spent three years living as male, a year and a half on testosterone. I have been detransitioning for a year and a half.
This is a woman with interesting and I think important ideas. She is very clear about the distinction between sex dysphoria and gender dysphoria and doesn’t speak to gender dysphoria (except to share her political frame on it.) She has very useful information about coping with sex dysphoria. She also speaks to the pressure to transition, something I absolutely believe is a real experience for some people. She is also very critical of the process we use to assess and refer people for transition related care.
Another very important blog also focused on sex dysphoria. Very political, very thoughtful. Lots of good information about the experience of detransitioning, something we really need to provide to people.
There is some information on detransitioning available at Susan’s Place. It is dated.
A video that talks about the effects of going on (about 3 min in) and off testosterone after a year. (about 10 min in)